Watching someone wander through an abandoned hospital or a forgotten manor feels like watching a disaster unfold in a horror movie.

Yet, thousands of people eagerly do it in real life. It’s called urban exploration, or urbex — a hobby where thrill-seekers step into vacant, long-forgotten buildings simply for the thrill of exploring and documenting them.

For instance, someone found a nuclear bunker with hospital-style rooms, rows of rusting metal beds, and decaying medical instruments. Another person stumbled upon an abandoned water park with a crumbling dragon-shaped dome.

These explorers have been sharing their incredible finds on r/Urbex, taking us into hidden corners that most people walk past every day. What makes these locations so fascinating isn’t just the peeling paint or overgrown vines… it’s what was left behind.

Each item offers a haunting glimpse into the past, leaving us to wonder what caused people to pack up and walk away.

#1 Abandoned Hospital. I Broke The Urbex Rule And Took Something Home

I’m sorry I just had too 😓

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#2 Found Myself A Bunker In The Woods

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#3 Thinking About Climbing My First Tower But Saw This Sign. Anyone Know What It Means?

OneSquare9106:

DO NOT. Emitters can be a lot of different strengths. If it can reach waaaaaay yonder you best not step right in front of it, unless you want to liquidate your insides.

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While people have explored abandoned spaces for generations, the term urban exploration only officially appeared in 1996 in Infiltration magazine.

However, the practice goes back much further. During the late 18th and 19th centuries, the Romantic movement sparked a massive cultural fascination with fallen architecture.

Romantic poets, such as Percy Bysshe Shelley, frequently wrote about the poetic beauty of nature reclaiming man-made monuments.

#4 Abandoned Hotel

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#5 Castle In The Woods

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#6 Found Whatever The Hell This Is

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By the Victorian era, this obsession grew so widespread that society coined a specific term for it: ruin lust. It is derived from the German word Ruinenlust, meaning a deep desire to explore ruins.

Across Europe, visiting ivy-covered castles and crumbling monasteries also became a trendy pastime for travelers.

This trend quickly spread across the Atlantic. In 1861, legendary American poet Walt Whitman famously wrote about his own underground adventures inside Brooklyn’s abandoned Atlantic Avenue tunnel — considered the world’s oldest subway tunnel.

In 1920, a group of Parisian artists organized guided tours through abandoned churches and neglected city spots.

#7 Abandoned Tiki Themed Hotel

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#8 Walked Through A Flooded Underground Car Park To Enter This Abandoned Mall

Main entrance was locked with a guard outside so I had to walk through the underground car park (they must've thought no one would willing to go through that lol so it wasn't locked) .
Fortunately the water was pretty shallow so I didn't risk getting any brain eating amoeba in me from the still water. (last image) 🙂

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#9 Abandoned… With Electricity?

Question for the hive mind. This building looks totally abandoned – it’s decrepit, totally sealed off, every window is boarded. There may be one point of access through a broken basement window.
BUT, there’s a motion-activated light outside (see 2nd pic). In your experience, does that mean someone is living there? Or just that someone’s paying the electricity bill?


PoofDatBoiGone:

I’ve explored abandoned places that still have the power on. Sometimes the town is paying for it, or the trust of the building, or the electric company simply doesn’t shut it off. Any idea what the building actually was/is? That could give more clues, perhaps it was a pump house and while not in active use, retains its power should it need to be used again. Lots of things to speculate on, I’d try and first figure out what it’s used for and go from there.

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Whether through 19th-century poetry or 21st-century photos, the urge to peek behind closed doors has always been part of human nature.

Yet despite the eerie environments, the global urbex community operates under some strict, unwritten rules. You should leave no trace behind, commit no vandalism, and take nothing but pictures.

#10 Nuclear Bunker Explored With Surgery Room Inside

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#11 120-Year-Old Abandoned Mine

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#12 Abandoned School With Working Electricity

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People are drawn to this hobby for different reasons, but for many, it comes down to a pure adrenaline rush. Part of that high naturally comes from entering strictly off-limits places. Navigating a private location under the threat of trespassing charges creates an intense level of suspense.

Avoiding security or law enforcement requires high vigilance, quick speed, and deep trust among teammates. As Chicago-based explorer Kelly Donahue puts it: “Yes, it’s trespassing, and yes, somebody doesn’t want us in there, but our goal is always to get in and then get out without anyone knowing that we were there.”

#13 Abandoned Waterpark In Hue, Vietnam

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#14 Mansion I Found Rather Untouched Still

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#15 Abandoned House In NY

Abandoned house of a doctor and his wife where everything went wrong.

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For some, urban exploration is also about uncovering the stories of the past.

When a hospital, factory, or estate shuts its doors, it leaves behind personal items, handwritten notes, and specialized equipment. These items offer an unfiltered look at daily life from decades ago.

By documenting these forgotten sites before they are demolished or collapse, explorers serve as unofficial archivists. Their photos and write-ups preserve local heritage and capture human stories and architectural details that would otherwise vanish from public memory.

“For me, it’s just a different way of learning about your history. Most of the places I’ve been to, I didn’t know their historical significance until after I went to take pictures,” says Tyrell Anderson of the Decay Devils.

#16 Abandoned Hospital, Middle Of The Night, All Alone

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#17 Found In The Basement Of An Abandoned Mansion Owned By A Mysterious Russian Dentist

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Urban explorers share the same deep curiosity for old design and local history as architects and historians. However, urbexers don’t always agree on what should actually happen to these places next.

Some prefer to see abandoned sites stay decayed, believing that peeling paint and rust give a building its soul and character.

But many others advocate strongly for adaptive reuse. They want the old, neglected structures to be turned into modern apartments, community hubs, or offices.

Studies show that adaptive reuse can help maintain cultural heritage, reduce construction costs, and breathe new economic life into surrounding neighborhoods.

#18 Abandoned WWII Aircraft

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#19 Plane Graveyard

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Urban exploration has always carried inherent risks. But some experts believe that the rise of social media algorithms has pushed a new generation of explorers to chase increasingly dangerous extremes.

Today, online feeds are filled with “rooftoppers” dangling off skyscraper cranes, daredevils leaping across subway tracks, or thrill-seekers scaling high-voltage power pylons.

“The community has changed drastically. A lot of these kids are putting themselves at greater risk to gain credibility on social media channels. There have been an increased number of (fatalities) in the urbex community worldwide in the past few years, and that’s gone hand-in-hand with the increased desire to publish these exploits on social media,” says Bradley Garrett, author of 'Explore Everything: Place-hacking the City.'

#20 Berlin Abandoned Metro Tunnel

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#21 Exploring My Parents Abandoned Cabin

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Safety begins with proper planning and never going alone.

Experts always recommend using the buddy system and informing someone outside the group of your exact location and expected return time.

Proper gear is equally critical — trade light clothes and sneakers for heavy-soled boots to guard against nails and glass. Wear heavy gloves, carry a primary flashlight with extra batteries, and a dust mask or respirator to protect against toxic mold and asbestos.

Above all, know when to walk away. If a building shows signs of recent collapse or smells of heavy chemical fumes, leave immediately because no photo is worth your life.

#22 Buran 2017 🫡

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#23 Super Colourful Abandoned Church In Detroit Being Demolished For A Storage Facility

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This list of ruins is as exhilarating as it is humbling. It reminds us just how temporary our modern world really is.

No matter how towering our concrete jungles get, nature will always find a way to claim back her land quietly.

Which of these forgotten places fascinated you the most? Would you ever be brave enough to step inside one of these decaying buildings, or do you prefer exploring from behind a screen? Tell us in the comments.

#24 Abandoned Mailbox

Yes, that's a giant Game Boy! Although its function is somewhat different; it is actually a mailbox! Unfortunately, this mailbox is no longer in use and is now left behind in nature, collecting dirt! Even though it is no longer emptied, many people still put their letters filled with wishes for life and sweet words to the deceased inside... A strange sight, something different for a change! I wanted to play a game, but unfortunately, it didn't work... (the last photo is me, so you can see the size of the mailbox better😜)

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#25 Abandoned Ship

The abandoned ship! This English ship, built in 1952, sailed its last voyage in 1996. In 1997, the ship was seized due to financial problems, and two years later, it was moved and capsized. To prevent it from sinking completely, it was moved to shallower waters. Years later, it still lies abandoned, half-submerged and rusting. It may not look that big, but standing there, it's a massive ship!

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#26 Paris Catacombs (March 2024)

Yeah so basically I'm fascinated by urbex but never really done it. I got a bit obsessed by the idea of going to the Paris catacombs, and given I was going to Paris anyway, thought I'd give it a go. I did a lot of research, found an entrance (manhole cover on a street), and just fucking went. I was by myself. Best decision ever.
I met a lot of really cool people. Firstly I met a guy who was by himself and he seemed friendly, he offered to show me round so i followed him for a while (making sure to keep track of where I was on the map I got online). I'll admit I lost track some times but it's so easy to find where you are again when you see a street sign.
He showed me some really cool places! The Cinema was my favourite, a room where all the graffiti is just film characters. Insane.
I went into "la plage" and as I entered there was this weird like, cult religious music blasting. Like deep chanting. I went in and it was just a couple guys chilling. I shared a couple of my beers with them and we hung out for a while. Then I explored some more by myself.
I was about to leave when I saw a little tunnel I could just about crawl through. On the map, I thought it was really short and would lead me to a shorter way out. Nope. It was a long crawl, a very round, even hole, and I ended up in an absolutely massive room I hadn't had time to visit - Marie Rose. That is a cool room. I then met some others that came through the same tunnel - they said my map was old and that tunnel wasn't on it. So anyway then I followed them around, and they showed me more stuff - including the castle room which is insane.
I think I'm going to go back at some point. It's fascinating.

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#27 Engineer's Home (A Mess)

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#28 Abandoned Mansion In Leesburg, Va

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#29 Urbex France

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#30 Gate To Hell

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#31 Abandoned Club Still Full Of Alcohol

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#32 Abandoned Fast Food Restaurant

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#33 Unedited Picture I Took Of A Forgotten Ohio Church

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#34 Abandoned Farmhouse In The Woods

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#35 Abandoned Resort

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#36 NYC Tunnels

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#37 Explored The Abandoned House, Found An Old Milling Machine In The Detach Garage

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#38 Abandoned Casino Cruise Ship

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#39 Local Swimming Pool Closed Because The Water Was Dangerous. Never Opened Again

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#40 Nah Bro, There’s Still Water In My School’s Pool

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#41 Found This Old Bunker In Northern Germany

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#42 Weird Trespassing Sign…

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#43 Abandoned Detroit Church

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#44 Giant Abandoned Complex (Partially Powered)

Just went to this giant abandoned complex today and it was wild, explored a bunch of the big main buildings and even checked out one that had power to a good 90% of it which was insane combined with the fact that barely any of it was touched. Felt like some parts of the buildings even had working heating😭

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#45 Abandoned School. Detroit

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#46 Abandoned Untouched Hotel In The Middle Of A Big City

Has power and water, there’s even a router with WiFi.

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#47 Abandoned College

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#48 If You Were Born Before 1980, This Abandoned House Is For You!

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#49 Found Some Cars. Are They Rare?

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The 1st one is a jaguar etype, which looks to be a normal 2 door model (these can fetch about 100k depending on the quality and milage). the second one is a lotus eclat, which fetch anywhere from 10k to 30k in good condition. car in the far back in the second pic looks to be a jaguar xjs.

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#50 Abandoned Radio Tower, 412 Meters Tall

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#51 The Impressive Abandoned Castle

The castle is slowly rotting away, but it's still very explorable!
I had the chance to visit this place after posting on this subreddit where I explained that I was looking for people to explore with since I was alone.
For a first time, it was fantastic.
The place is absolutely gigantic and still very well preserved. I have a map of all the cameras to avoid, and the path to follow to reach the castle.

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#52 Former Archives Of The Bnf In Versailles

These abandoned buildings were built between the 1930s and 1960s to serve as annexes to the National Library of France. They housed, among other things, newspapers, periodicals, patents and duplicate collections.
The site remained in operation until 1998, when the last collections were transferred. Since then, the buildings have been abandoned and have become a popular spot for urban explorers.
If anyone knows more about their history or rehabilitation plans, I would be delighted to learn more.

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#53 Abandoned Metro Station - Sk - Noisy-Le-Grand

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#54 Found A Human Skull In A House With Power

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#55 Abandoned Home Of An Artist

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#56 Tweakerville Hotel

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#57 Abandoned Funeral Home

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#58 Abandoned Tudor Mansion

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#59 Bruh

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#60 Abandoned Amphitheater

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#61 Giant Hidden Soviet Bunker Complex Near Berlin

Yesterday me and my friends discovered a giant scale bunker on a abandoned Soviet military site we immediately entered to explore, the entrance was just a small hole just enough fit through leading to a tunnel leading down approximately 15-20 meters below the ground revealing a gigantic bunker network ranging from small rooms just high enough to enter to halls so huge that an airplane could park there. Next to one of the corridors we found a small room filled with boxes containing electronic components and other relics.

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#62 Exploring A Massive Abandoned Hospital At Night Alone. Found The Autopsy Room Too

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#63 Strip Club Shut Down For Some Shady Business

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#64 Abandoned Truck In The Woods

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#65 First Weird Experience

Had my first weird experience at this bando a couple nights ago. While inside this early 1900s farm house, me and my friends experienced a door on the second floor of this house absolutely slam shut. It was a calm night in terms of wind and the house didn’t seem to have much a draft to it. Usually pretty skeptical about this kind of stuff given it’s the first out of 30 some places I’ve been to over the last 2 years. Definitely will be going back to check it out in the near future.

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#66 Abandoned Supermax Prison That Used Lethal Injection

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#67 Abandoned Clinic

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#68 Former Home Of Nina Ricci

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#69 Hello, I'm A Young Urban Explorer With A Passion For The Military, And I've Managed To Find Some Abandoned Military Treasures. Does Anyone Have Any Information About Them? Thank You

GiovannyRGB:

I'd advise you to delete your post if you want to avoid being woken up by the police tomorrow morning.
Clearly, it's ammunition that could also interest malicious individuals, so I'd avoid posting it online...
Especially if the crates are full.

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#70 Abandoned Train

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#71 An Old Factory Near Lyon, France

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#72 Agglomeration Plant

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#73 Old Paper Mill Facility Lost To The Evil Matcha Lake

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#74 Abandoned Water Park

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#75 The Abandoned Ivy Pool Mansion

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#76 Abandoned Hospital Morgue

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#77 Do You Bring Breathing Masks? Just Explored This Mold Infested Mansion In France

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#78 An Abandoned Skate Park In The Woods

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#79 Abandoned Feryy

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#80 Clearest Still Water ☣️

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#81 Hyperbaric Chamber In A Abandoned Hospital

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#82 Abandoned, Not Finished Prisons

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#83 Abandoned Soda Bottling Factory

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#84 Hair Salon

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#85 Maison Henry

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#86 Abandoned Little Textile Fabric In The Vosges(88)

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#87 Spot In The Vosges (Golbey)

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#88 Abandoned Maglev Train In Georgia

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#89 Hidden In NY

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#90 Some Of My Favorite Shots From A Huge Psychiatric Center In NY

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#91 Big Abandoned Barn

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#92 Abandoned Country Club With Everything Left Behind

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#93 Abandoned Fighter Jets

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Love doesn’t care about borders. You can find your soulmate anywhere on Earth and start a fantastic adventure together. However, even the most open-minded and adaptable travelers can still be shocked by the differences in background between the two of them, as well as their families.

Has your SO’s family ever told you that you might need surgery? Or that you have to wait in the parking lot to be intentionally late to dinner? People with international and intercultural partners spilled the tea about the biggest and weirdest culture shocks they felt when they first got a taste of their loved one’s culture, and it’s a wild ride. We’re bringing you their top stories to show you just how flexible you have to be if you want to make the relationship work.

#1

Hispanic culture has zero version of political correctness. They are extremely blunt. "Hey you look like you got fat" isn't uncommon.

The people have a better view of life in many ways than I grew up. Much more family focused.

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#2

Food.

I grew up in a house where my dad is a good cook and we’d always have family dinner together so I thought I was in a food oriented household.

Well a month after I started dating my husband he brings me to a big family dinner. Grandparents were there and all the aunts and uncles. Twenty people around one of those big lazy Susan tables. I was the only white person in the whole restaurant.

They would all be chattering away in Cantonese and suddenly I’d hear my name followed by laughter and a big scoop of something landed in my bowl. Not wanting to be rude I tried to eat everything. If I was really unsure I leaned over to my boyfriend or his mom and ask what it was and their answer invariably was “it’s good, you’ll like it”

On the drive home my boyfriend said I had been the dinner entertainment because everybody thought it was hilarious that this little blonde girl ate everything, they even ordered a few really authentic dishes just to mess with me. But I ended up impressing everyone because I didn’t bat an eye.

He told me later that was the night he decided he was gonna marry me because I whole heartedly jumped into his culture and tried everything. I’m to a point where there are dishes I know I don’t like but if something new is in the table I always try it.

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#3

Being late to social gatherings is so ingrained in their culture that showing up right on time is considered rude. She has literally made me pull into a parking lot and wait so that we were at least ten minutes late to dinner at tita's house. And we were still the first ones there by far.

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There are plenty of challenges to be found in a regular relationship with someone from a similar background. There are even more challenges when it is an international, intercultural, interfaith, or interracial marriage.

Broadly speaking, intercultural couples experience more stress than same-culture couples. What’s more, it can take you longer to integrate into their family and background. And if you decide to have kids, they might struggle with their identity, as they grow up between different cultures.

On top of that, there are more legal considerations to keep in mind if you come from different countries: visa requirements, international documentation, residency laws, etc., can be a real pain to get to grips with at first.

#4

They can drink. Like, seriously. Holy hell. (Scandinavian, specifically Norwegian and Swedish).

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#5

Soo much family. She is Samoan. Every Samoan seems to be related.

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#6

Weddings.

My fiance (Irish) and I (Indian) started planning our wedding. We're both wanted to go for a small wedding and we sat our parents down and told them about it. I gave my fiance a heads up to let him know that we'd have to operationally define what a small wedding would be to my parents because to them small would be like a 100 people. He didn't take me seriously at first, but when we finally got down to it and told my parents, they came up with a guest list of just their friends and my family of about a 125 people.


As a compromise, we've finally arrived on 20 people for the wedding and my parents are throwing us a party after with whoever they want to invite. It was like a war negotiation.

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What are the biggest culture shocks that you’ve personally experienced after you started dating your significant other and met their family? Meanwhile, what shocked your partner when you finally introduced them to your folks? What changed after you got married?

Share your relationship and family stories, as well as any advice you have for new couples, in the comments at the very bottom of this post.

#7

I'd never seen someone cry tears of joy eating good pasta until I met my Italian girlfriend.

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#8

Back in high school I dated a Lebanese girl. We had to date in secret because her family was super strictly against her dating anyone especially a Non-Muslim and Non-Arab guy.

Anyway eventually her cousin found out that we were having intimate relations and that information got to her dad who ended up sending her and her sister back to live with their uncle in Lebanon because "America corrupted his daughter". I never saw her again.

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#9

How accepted I am into their family.

I come from an horrible home. My family is american. I was very much a true life cinderella. I was attacked by siblings and told it was my fault. If I fought back, I was punished severely I was never good enough even with the highest grades or best behavior, but my siblings barely passed school and it was celebrated with huge fanfare.

I am now dating a Hispanic man. His family is so comforting and helpful and loving. It's crazy. The only time I got hugged in my family was when I was losing my cool over how unfair everything was. And it was always I love you all equally. No just I love you, not it was I love you all equally. His family is just hey I'm going hug love you and leave. Or I missed you. Or be careful. Or behave and a kiss blown.

I actually had to have a talk with my SO because I'm not a big hugger. I have trauma that is stirred up by hugs from people. It's a trigger for me. Because a hug with both arms up top can very quickly be one strangling. And it has before. So I had to have him talk to his family. Because it was seriously messing with me.

And his family was totally cool about it. They constantly offer what I assume would be mom and dad level help in a happy home. They are always asking if I'll be there for holidays. They sent me a present for Christmas even though we'd only been together for a couple months. It's insane just how accepting and loving a healthy family is. And I'm not sure if it's the healthy family relationships or if it's the culture difference. But I love it.

#10

How open his family is about money. I never knew how much my parents make I have no idea how much money my sister makes. But I know my sister in law makes 5k more a year than my husband because every time one of them gets a raise they call each other to gloat (no bad blood just an ongoing sibling rivalry. I think she’s gonna win honestly)

I know what my father in law makes and every year he goes over our taxes with us so he knows down to the penny what my husband and I make.

It’s honestly so refreshing to not have a taboo about money. It’s made me so much smarter financially. My husband and I bought a house two months before we got married and ended being house poor. We didn’t have any spending money outside food bills and mortgage. I felt no trepidation going to my mother in law and asking her to help us nail down a budget and savings plan for the next six months to help dig us out of the hole we were in.

Some of this is cultural but some of it is just his family being very very open with each other.

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#11

Black British with a Jamaican family. Married to a white British guy.

Was most shocked by funerals. When we had his nannas funeral I was shocked that people were invited and only immediate family. We did the funeral, then went to a pub and there were sandwiches, cakes, tea etc then everyone was heading home by 5.30pm.

Jamaican and Caribbean funerals are NOTHING of the sort. People turn up because they knew the deceased person years ago. Some people don’t even make plans to go to the funeral they arrange to go to the “after”. There’s hot food served like a properly catered function in a hall or centre, there’s sound systems set up, and people dance. Also sometimes a couple old men in hats playing dominoes. There’s also usually a “nine-night” so nine nights after the person passes away you hold a big party essentially to chase away bad spirits. Lots of music, drinking, food, smoking, etc.

I told husband about this and his face was a picture!

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#12

The EXTREME family closeness. I'm black, but my family isn't particularly close - we live in different states, we talk probably weekly, I don't know the daily ins and outs of their lives. My wife's family though - my god. Take a wild guess at their ethnicity. I'll give you a hint - 90% of her grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins live in the same five mile radius in El Paso.

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#13

Their insistence on cooking things "the ~~white~~ right way." I'm Filipina, BF is white. His parents are from the PNW and insist that salmon can only be cooked the way they cook it up in Oregon/Washington/whatever. Lmao, that's stupid, there's tons of ways to cook fish and make it delicious but I don't complain. Eventually BF's dad makes us a salmon dinner. Baked salmon with no seasoning, white rice, and a slice of lemon for flavor.

That's it. That's the only way they will eat salmon. We invited BF's mom for dinner once and told her we were making teriyaki salmon. She CANCELED LMAO.

Luckily BF actually has functioning tastebuds and agrees that a lot of his parents food is bland AF.

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#14

How similar our cultures are. When we first started dating, I thought there would be a much steeper learning curve since I'm a Central Asian Jew and he's Iraqi-Canadian.

#15

Swearing at their parents and there parents not caring.....

#16

My wife is half Indian half Italian, I'm Serbian.


For the Italian: no sense of privacy, if you place a phone call, the whole room is on the phone with you. Also, SO. MUCH. PASTA.

Also, it would get most people but not me, because we're also loud, but they're loud.

For the Indian: at family gatherings they expect the kids to do everything. Won't even offer a drink. Also, the hell, a meal with no meat?! Also, so quiet.

For my wife: "Oh my god, there's so much meat! Why is no one eating and only drinking?! Why does everyone smoke?! With kids right there?! Did he really just have half a bottle of that?! What is that?! Oh my god! It tastes like rubbing alcohol! Oh, but it's so good! I need a smoke now. Oh, the food is suddenly gone! Wait, did that man just eat a loaf of bread and half a lamb?! Is he finishing that bottle?! How is he not drunk?!"

PS he was drunk, he's just constantly drunk.

#17

I’m Chinese, husband is white American (some mix of Italian, Ukrainian, and English ancestry) and just the fact that he and his family don’t eat a lot of the parts of animals that are edible. He won’t eat any organ meat, which is really strange to me because I grew up eating ALL the organ meat.

#18

AM from up north marrying WF from the deep south. Shoes indoors.

YOU'RE TRACKING DIRT INTO THE HOUSE.

#19

My girlfriend is Japanese, and it never ceases to amaze me how dedicated Japanese people are to keeping "the harmony" or whatever you want to call it. Obviously losing your temper is looked down upon harshly, but they even avoid just talking about an issue. When she's upset about something, she won't bring it up, she'd rather pretend everything is fine and actively avoids the topic. Even if we talk about something casual like a movie, as soon as it's clear we disagree on something, even something super small, she immediately shuts down any possible discussion. For me as a European, that's super weird and quite often frustrating to deal with.

#20

Already commented but I thought of a better answer. I'm Canadian and my partner is British. I don't find our cultures shockingly different, but it took a little while to get used to the British sense of humour.

His family are genuinely proud of me when I make fun of them. They're like "aww your insults are getting so much better, I remember how polite you used to be when we first met you." I cannot make fun of my mom or even my sister like that. And at work we all actively make fun of our boss to his face and he just laughs along. In Canada that never would have happened. It's pretty great tbh.

#21

The inappropriate amount of demands for us to have children.

#22

White male married to Indian- the stupid pedestal all Indian women put the men of their family on. Ridiculous and outdated.

#23

They put Adobo on *everything.* Even lasagna.

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#24

She ate fried bananas, she gave me some and taste like sweet fried potatoes, its really weird.

Shes from colombia btw.

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#25

When I was dating a Philippine (autocorrect says a different thing than I thought you called people from the Philippines. Hmm). Anyways I was dating this guy and it came out from his family and friends that dating a white girl is just something you do before you get married to a girl from the Philippines.

So yah, I learned the relationship I was invested in was only ever meant to be temporary.

I don't know if this is actually common or I had a unique experience but either way it was shocking and hurtful.

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#26

My wife had to deal with korean people who will frequently comment about your appearance *as a greeting*.

My aunt meeting my SO: Hii nice to meet you! your face is so small.

Edit:

A lot of comments point out that small face is desirable and should be taken as a compliment. True. But I just used the nicest example. They will comment on anything about your body. And the worst part is that they always offer a solution: "you should try some surgery."

I guess it's common to a lot of other cultures to dig at your looks pretty casually. But I think there's something uniquely bad about Koreans because they will go so far as to try and refer you to a plastic surgeon. ALL THE TIME. I just turned 30 and my mom recently told me I should try botox. Like what the hell mom.

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#27

When I was dating a Mexican, I'd go to his family parties and they would play the most foul mouthed rap. F tha police blasting at a 5 year olds birthday. Abuelas and abuelos up and dancing to it.

I made a comment about how liberal his parents and grandparents must be. He said "oh they dont know English. This absolutely wouldn't fly if they knew what it was about".

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#28

Calling everyone an uncle or auntie when you mean "person who is older." The number of actual relatives is much smaller than the number of family members.

[edit: I love that apparently this happens everywhere except for white middle America. I first got it from my Chinese in-laws].

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#29

It's not interracial in any real way, but I had a bonkers family dinner out with my wife's Maltese family one time. If you're unfamiliar, Maltese people are basically Italians who get super mad when you call them Italians.

We were seated at the end of the long, long dining table with my wife's two aunts and uncles (her dad's brother and sister, and their spouses--all in their 60s and 70s). Dinner was served "family style" at this restaurant, and these two old, Floridian, ex-New Yorker, 2nd-generation Maltese couples ate like this: The lasagne would hit the table, the wife would dish some for the husband, some for herself, and then pass it to the other wife. The next wife would dish some for her husband, some for herself... and the pass it to my wife. Who, without *blinking* dished some for me, some for herself, and passed the tray down the table.

Now this woman has never "served me" dinner (in a restaurant, anyway--she's a great cook at home) in her life. She's a whole, independent, modern woman who is super clear that I'm a grown-a*s man who can get his own food. But at this dinner, her-serving-me happened entirely seamlessly, as if it's just how we did it too.

Then the veal came. Same routine. Then the spaghetti. Same. Then the pork chops. Same.

If you're counting, we're now four entrees into dinner (and I didn't mention appetizers and salad!), and I've been dished a serving of each by my bizarrely servile wife. I'm no slouch at eating, but this is starting to get, well, silly. As I look around at the other husbands (because we're clearly In Rome here), they're stuffing in each of these... courses?... as if it was the first.

Then the desserts started coming. It was a flan, and then a creme brulee, and then a tiramisu. I Was Served a serving of each. By the end of this I was beginning to whinge audibly. As I glommed the final bite of tiramisu, I looked up, breathing heavily, and caught an approving nod from her uncle Charlie.

As I pushed back from the table I looked around and realized that every man in that family is literally 50 to 100 pounds overweight.

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#30

I’m half Spanish on my mum’s side, we never really got on with my dad’s family (which is sad, because some of his more distant relatives are amazing people), so I was raised in my mum’s culture.

My husband’s family are lovely people, but how their family works is so strange to me. When they talk to each other, it’s how I’d interact with a work colleague I don’t see very often- polite, cheerful, but never touching on personal subjects. They seemed horribly embarrassed when we called them to announce our engagement (we live on opposite sides of the world). I was a bit offended until I got to know them better, they do care and they are warm- they just don’t express it like my family do.

I did warn my husband about my family, but I don’t think he really understood. We are LOUD. Loud enough that if you want to talk, you shout over everyone else. There are a lot of us. We are all up in each other’s business. Our family will subsume you if they like you- he gained 5 aunts and uncles and 10 first cousins without asking for them.

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#31

My biggest surprise is the huge amount of Polish pride someone can have considering that they don't speak Polish or have been to Poland.

Her biggest surprise is that we play hide the money anytime we go to a relative's house. Also, the arguments that ensue when trying to pay the restaurant bill.

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#32

We’re from different cultures (I’m Canadian and she’s British). A good 20% of the time I have no clue what she’s saying... like, I hear the words, but they make no sense when strung together in the way she does. Often have to break down exactly what it was she meant in simpler terms.

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#33

Money management. I was quite surprised that when we got married, we were supposed to give away half of the cash we received as gifts to my SO's cousins. I was then instructed that it was rude to have a savings account. If we had extra money, it should always be given to the family as gifts. Not happening.

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#34

I'm white that married a Mexican. The biggest thing for me was that EVERYTHING is a family affair. Like, I call my family every other week or whatever, but my husband's family does everything together. My first taste of this was when we were dating, and it took the whole family to switch out his mattress for a bigger one. I was like, you couldn't do that yourself? He looked at me funny when I said that.

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#35

Wife is chinese and I'm America. The number of chinese guys that will get super pissed off at a chinese girl for marrying an American man Is astonishing. Really ticks them off.

Edit:..... I am America... not changing it.

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#36

His family has little to no contact with one another unless it’s a holiday. They also put their elderly in care homes. As well, they put much of their money into immediate gratification rather than saving for the future.

His family is Afro American. I am first gen American and my family is traditional Filipino.

We believe in family first, multiple generations live in the same home until they pass. We hire in home care for our elderly; and if (when) they need hospice care there is always money set aside to care for them.

#37

I am 100% Pakistani and my husband is a mix of Indigenous (Canadian) and Ukrainian.

I find it shocking & hilarious when the parents swear, love for animals, openness about talking about intercourse, being able to be physically affectionate with one another with other family around, alcohol, being able to speak your opinions...people actually listen to you when you speak.

#38

Irish people really will stop talking to their family members over the slightest thing. Like cut them out of their life for decades.

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#39

My fiance is white and English. They swear alot and i thought her sisters and her hated each other cause every fight sounds like they are extremly pissed. Fact is they just talk loud.

#40

My dad is white and mom is Asian. He told me one of the biggest surprises was just how spicy everything she ate was.

#41

White Americans seem to prefer chicken breast. That's like the driest, least flavorful part of the chicken. Especially American roided up chickens.

Also, shoes in the house. I knew that they did it from TV, but no amount of TV could prepare me for his sister just standing on my bathmat with her shoes on.

#42

I don’t know if it’s Hispanic culture overall or just Mexican culture, but rubbing an egg on someone to cure them is a thing. A very weird thing that is just accepted.

#43

My boyfriend is half Japanese, and his very un-emotional relationship with his mother, and his father too, was a huge shock to me.

My parents are european immigrants from the Balkans, and they're incredibly affectionate. My brother and I are affectionate with each other and will hug anytime. I hug my parents nearly every day (before the pandemic). I grew up holding hands with my cousins in public, but my boyfriend absolutely hates PDA of any kind. We've gotten into numerous arguments about physical affection in public or even at parties around our own friends.

Naturally he thinks my relationship with my family is very weird. Because we hug...

#44

I'm from Ireland, and my wife is American. The first time she visited my family in Ireland, my sister's (also-American) boyfriend approached her and asked "How do you handle these people?"

That poor jerk had moved to Ireland after knowing my sister for like a month, due to having knocked her up. It did not end up working out. Aside from my lovely niece, I guess.

#45

Oooh being so touchy touchy. I’m Asian and she’s Hispanic, ‘nuff said.

Also what surprised us was the foods. There were so many things present in our opposite cultures but used in a lot of opposite ways. Like certain ingredients used savory in one culture and sweet in the other and so in. But a lot of ingredients in common.

#46

I'm from a small family...married a Latina woman who has 3 boys. My family wasn't close at all but my wife's is completely different. We're all very close, always hugs and kisses and talking s**t. Those "boys " are now men, all have kids of their own. And I've been with them for 20+ years and my wife and family are still going strong.

#47

Jello. So many kinds of Jello. Every person in the surrounding South Dakota farming community brings a different kind of Jello to social gatherings.

#48

How awful their cooking was. I am third generation Mexican, so we have really had some time to adopt southern cooking here. But...how do you even dry out a turkey that much? Why is your casserole so soupy? Are you sure everyone is bringing their best dish here? My wife's uncle owns a bbq restaurant, and I know 3 family members that make better bbq than he does. My wife thought she didn't like meat for almost 20 years. It was their cooking.

#49

Hispanic American who used to be married to a white American (didn't even claim to be Irish or German or anything). His mom really didn't season food. He asked me to teach her, and I felt uncomfortable doing so. Also why are there so many types of casseroles. They also were shocked my hair was naturally curly. Hard to believe we grew up two cities away from each other for all the weird differences.

My current in-laws are black American. He couldn't say my mac and cheese was better than his mom's for 10 years. He still won't say it in front of her. I avoid going to church with my mother in law because it always lasts 3 hours and there is an entire 30 minutes of people catching the spirit and fainting. I wanted to faint from hunger and dehydration. They're also fascinated with my hair. I'll report back if I ever marry an Asian guy.

Edit: As for the mac and cheese recipe, I've been doing that by instinct for years. Basically if you know how to make a roux, and you're not afraid to use something different besides medium cheddar, you can make a good mac and cheese. My secret in this case, which will surprise no one since I'm Hispanic, is Adobo. But I switch up cheeses based on my mood. Season the flour for the roux though, don't go dumping it in your cheese sauce. It's all about the seasoning.

#50

Yemenite Israeli family... I don't speak the language. First visit, I hear everybody screaming and ask 'What are you all fighting about' and my wife says 'oh, we're just talking'.

#51

Dating someone who is Native, I was not expecting him to be related to the large majority of this town. He has a lot of family, plus hes the oldest of SIX kids.

#52

(all is in USA)

German-Irish here who grew up with a bunch of Italian or half-Italian friends.

I had no idea until I dated an Italian girl how superstitious they were. Like my family says they're catholic and we'd do all the sacraments but if you looked through our house you wouldn't even know we've heard of religion. That's how NOT superstitious my family is. We probably don't even believe in the popular organized religion of our area.

Then there's my gf and her family. There are plastic Jesus cards (the ones you'd get of a person at their wake) in every room. Crosses, painting etc. That's the religion part. The superstitious part is even crazier. Knocking on wood. Not putting shoes on a bed (it'll make you have a bad day). Cheers without eye contact. Broken mirrors bad luck. Salt over the shoulder.

I can't believe how real it is to them.

Also I recognize were both just different flavors of white but yeah celtic vs Mediterranean is worlds apart.

#53

My wife is from Taiwan. The biggest shock was the first time I met her parents. In the states, it is rude not to finish your plate as a guest, in Taiwan, if your plate is empty you get more food until you finish and there is food on your plate when you are done. Needless to say I was turning green and had to ask my wife if I could stop and she laughed.

#54

My (Ashkenazi) husband (Indian) was surprised at how similar our families were. Sure there were some differences but he chose to focus on the similarities. He obviously was expecting more differences.

#55

Dutch boyfriend eating peanut butter toast literally every morning.

#56

When I first started seeing my boyfriend, who is white, he used to bring me home to his parents house. Parents were home, would say hi to me, and then we’d go up to his room with the door closed for hours. It blew my mind that his parents would just let him take a girl up to his room with the door closed like that.

Asked him about it and he was like, yeah? I’m over 18, they can’t say no.

Meanwhile I (also over 18) have never even brought a boy to my house, let alone to my bedroom, let alone with the door closed. Turning 18 didn’t change any rules for me either, no matter if I was a legal adult I was still abiding by every one of my parents strict rules.

Also, they eat dinner at like 5pm. Even earlier on Sunday’s. That was wild to me too.

#57

How old fashioned she is. Won't let me change my own child's diaper. Gets angry about it.

#58

The sheer ubiquity of Bud lite and Nascar.

#59

"Hey, Fatty!" is insulting but "¡Ey, Gordita!" is just calling out to a family member.

#60

To be quite honest, I don't think I ever was "shocked" by anything. I have a feeling she might have been shocked more by my culture, to be honest.

However, one thing that I did not expect was just how receptive, welcoming, friendly, and loving her family would be. I always had this (bad??) impression that Asian cultures were more reserved or whatever. But naw, they were just so open. It was great!

#61

A few things (I’m white, he’s Haitian)

1. The family drama! There is ALWAYS some kind of drama at any given moment of the day!
2. Eating super late on holidays like Christmas or thanksgiving. I swear “my moms cooking it should be done by noon” is loosely translated to “we arnt eating until 9’oclock at night and someone still has to run to the store a couple times.
3. Intentional tardiness. I like to be early for things and he can just dilly dally around and be okay being late for things. His mom can’t leave the house until about an hour after she has to be somewhere.
4. The excessive pushing to get married and have kids! I attended his brothers Haitian wedding and the entire time “when you guys going to get married” “when you guys going to have kids?” I swear for the entire 6 hours.
5. The partying! I’m cool with this part though! Everything’s a party!

#62

How close family stays. My husbands family gets together every Christmas. His grandfather was physicist who was able to get his wife and 4 children out before the borders truly closed in China. His 4 children all had 2-3 children, then they started having children....Christmas is now 40 people and 4 generations.

#63

My partner is British Pakistani, I'm just British. He's very western in his outlook, I'm still taken aback 6 years down the line when male family members won't shake my hand or greet me, or when they suggest it is my place to be fetching and carrying for him. He can do his own darn running around. Also 17 people in one 4 bedroom house, I don't understand where everyone sleeps. The food is good though!

#64

Well my girlfriend CAN NOT get over the marvel of the tater tot casserole. Thinks it is the most disgusting looking thing she’s ever seen.

#65

If you don't say hello when you enter the home or gathering then you suck and the family is mad.

#66

I’m British and my wife is Chinese. Not British born Chinese. She’s actually from China.

Family is really important there. They just walk in and out of each other’s houses unannounced as if it were there own.

The thing that shocked me the most though is how about 90% or so of men seem to smoke. Like it’s a given or something. But almost no women seem to smoke.

#67

Huge family events, and family actually wants to be in your life and do things all the time to a fault, my wife is from Zimbabwe and when we planned to wed, I had to go through what's called labola. Which is a shona wedding ceremony, it was all very interesting and bizarre at the same time.

#68

Not interracial but a cultural thing

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So my grandpa came from a long line of Scots, loud family and large gatherings. my grandma though had a much smaller English family.

Whenever my Grandpa brought my Grandma to thanksgiving dinner everyone was loud and yelling at each other, typical family gathering. Whenever they left my Grandma broke down crying, my grandpa asked why she was crying. she thought that my Grandpa's family was Mad at her and that she had caused a rift or something. My Grandpa was shocked and just explained that that was how it was and no one was mad at each other or her.

#69

Wife is swedish and eats the most horrifying rotten fish (surstrømming). God, just thinking about them makes me want to vomit..

#70

I was shocked when I learned that my Korean girlfriend (now wife) and her family slept on the floor. It was all the more shocking because she was wildly successful.

I lived in Korea for over 4 years and never knew that a lot of them sleep on the floor. It's a 1st world country, but they all have heated floors so they just roll out a pad and soak up the warmth.

#71

My boyfriend is second generation Greek and I'm the most milquetoast white American family ever. It's shocking the amount of immediate friends he makes with other Greek people- we got curbside food for takeout the other day, the chef asked him where he was from (because of his beard), turns out their both Greek and bam suddenly he gets free special food and extra drinks for us. This is not a rare occasion either!

#72

He basically speaks another language and has a completely different demeanour talking to his Caribbean family vs me and my white family. I have to ask what they’re saying an embarrassing amount!

Edit: changed ‘why they’re saying’ to ‘what they’re saying’.

#73

Home names. Fijian Indian people have normal names, but then a completely different unrelated name that only their family use for them. Kind of like a nick name but it’s usually not based on their actual name or even anything else and only their family would use it for them. In fact most of the time no one can explain where the name came from or why they just don’t use their normal name. And almost all of them have this. I didn’t believe that it was a standard thing until I asked other Fijian Indians I knew that weren’t related to my partner. And they all went “Yeah that’s definitely a thing. Why is that weird?” It just blew my mind that almost every single person has hidden nicknames.

According to the Social Readjustment Rating Scale, divorce is the second most stressful life event, right after the death of a spouse. It can turn a person’s entire world upside down, and when one partner decides to make the process as difficult as possible, things can get even worse.

That is why it can feel so satisfying when their behavior finally catches up with them. One Redditor asked divorce lawyers to share stories of people who tried to use the system against their ex, only to have their tactics backfire. We gathered some of the most memorable examples below. Scroll down to read them for yourself.

#1

Not a lawyer but "a spouse finally getting their karma in court" absolutely happened during my divorce.

After a cr*ppy marriage filled with emotional and financial a***e, we finally separated and I filed for divorce. Ex made a lot more than I did and I wiped out my entire savings hiring a lawyer because exactly one session of mediation and it was pretty clear he had no intention of being reasonable or meeting anywhere near the middle without someone legally forcing him to.

So I got a lawyer and he decided he didn't need one. Despite this, I walked into this thing just wanting to move on and more than willing to make major compromises in order to get it over with and get my life back, but we didn't even get that far in the discussion.

Instead, we would schedule a meeting and instead of anything moving forward, he would just push papers around the table for 2 hours and nitpick over insignificant details. I was just watching my retainer fee drain away and at some point I became suspicious that this is exactly what he was trying to do until finally he said it out loud and word for word one day as we were walking out of my lawyer's office. He was dragging it out until I couldn't afford representation. I was in tears when I walked into my lawyer's office and told her this while feeling completely helpless.

At this point she cackled (literally) and told me to let him. Turns out the two years he spent pushing papers around the table meant that in less than 2 months, we would have been married 10 years which meant that I was entitled to half of his pension.

She declared that we were done with negotiations and scheduled a formal court date for a week after our 10 year anniversary. Not only did she ensure that I got far more than anything I originally offered, but also got the judge to make him pay all of my legal fees. The look on his face when he found out about the pension and realized he did it to himself was priceless.

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#2

Oh god. Sweet woman I grew up with married this guy. They had 2 kids. The younger one was born severely disabled. She will need care 24/7 her entire life.

It’s rough.

So he has an affair with a coworker and files for divorce. His idea for custody is that he gets the house and the healthy kid, and she and the disabled kid will just kind of … evaporate? His life will go on, just without any of the inconvenience.

They go to court. This guy literally stands there and tells the judge that’s what he wants.

Sweet baby Jesus.

The judge ripped him a new one. Gave her custody of both kids. And the house. And the newer car. Awarded her alimony WAY above what she asked for because he added up what it would cost for her to get some respite care for the daughter, and tacked some more on just because. And it doesn’t end at 18 because her needs will not end at 18.

The judge did everything short of turning the guy over his knee and spanking him.

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#3

The spouse who hid assets in a hobby collection only for the judge to be a fellow enthusiast who knew the real value. Watching the appraisal dismantle their lies in real-time was chef’s kiss.

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#4

Not a lawyer, but my friend's husband was dragging things out, pretending To be infirm so he could get out of sharing his retirement. My friend was being grilled about shared debt and she finally lost her temper when the lawyer said, "and aren't you divorcing him to avoid this debt?" She snapped back, "No, I'm divorcing him because he tried to sleep with my sister." The stenographer and the clerk both covered their mouths like they were trying not to laugh. The judge warned her not to bring it up again (no-fault state), but dismissed the line of questioning.

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#5

My sister married a total d*******g. He had a big temper and hated being told no.

After more than a decade of a***e culminated in a broken humerus (not funny), my sister finally filed for divorce. She was a stay-at-home mom who had left college and quit her job to raise the kids since her husband made a good living in tech sales.

The husband simply wasn't involved in his two kids' lives, but wanted to weaponize custody (and the divorce process) to punish the ex-wife.

Judge started the custody/divorce proceedings by saying 'this state defaults to 50/50 custody unless there's any reason one parent is not fit'. Husband was pissed and so tried a hundred different ways to prove my sister wasn't a good parent. Lies about her drinking (she didn't drink), how she was negligent (she did all the cooking, cleaning, and medical care). Sister's lawyer was hitting back on every point and had documentation to prove it.

Judge eventually snapped and said:

> Alright, Mr. Smith. What are your children's shoe sizes? Who is their pediatrician? What are their favorite subjects in school?

And the husband just kinda stumbled and tried to claim the then-middle-school daughter didn't have a favorite subject, to which the mother replied:

> [Daughter]'s favorite subject is photography. It's all she talks about. She walks around all day with a camera around her neck. She's currently at a photography summer camp that you had to sign a permission slip for.

The husband was furious and called her a "f*****g b***h" in the court room and the judge absolutely upbraided him.

The judge assigned sister 80% custody and a *hefty* child support and alimony.

He tried tons of shenanigans including filing to get payments reduced saying he'd been unemployed, and it got so bad that eventually his mom provided documentation to the court that he was lying and making more than a quarter million dollars / yr.

Sister's doing fine; just finished her DNP and one kid just graduated college and the other is doing well.

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#6

There was a couple from the town next my hometown that got a divorce after the wife cheated. She got the house, half of his retirement, and was not very kind throughout the process. Not long after the divorce was final, like within days, his buddies took him to the casino to cheer him up and we won a jackpot, at least a few million dollars (don’t remember the exact number). She tried to take him back to court to split it but the divorce was final.

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#7

I’m a spouse.

My now ex husband was an a*****e a hole that I physically stayed with for way too long. When I finally left him, and filed for divorce he refused to fill out and sign the paperwork for an additional 6 years. I eventually took a day from work and went to his mom’s house, where he was living. Blocked his truck into his driveway with my car and knocked on the door. I then refused to leave until he signed the papers.

FF to our court date, and the mf’r was a no show.
It was a simple divorce. All I wanted was to go back to my maiden name. I wasn’t looking for a penny from him. We had no kids. No property together. He was just continuing his a***e.

The judge saw my distress and had a court clerk take me to an office where he then called the three numbers my husband had listed. No answer at two. So he called the work #.
And boy was my ex pissed! Court clerk told him flat out that even though he’d disregarded the court date. That I was going to be granted my request for divorce and to go back to my maiden name.
I could hear him swearing😀

We went back to the courtroom. And the clerk went and spoke to the judge. An hour later I walked out a free woman.
I didn’t hear from my ex for years. Until one day he reached out to me via FB and asked me for my copy of the divorce decree. He was supposedly lost his, and was getting remarried. I told him no. That I’d paid for it. And that he could go to the state to get his own copy.
He finished that call the same way he finished everything. By being a trashy AF small, pathetic little boy.

I’ve remarried an amazing man. We’ve built a great life and family.

#8

Not a lawyer (and NOT in the US, this took place in France)

My dad did everything to make the divorce process extremely long because he was mad my mom asked for it. He was refusing every. Single. Deal. Around their finances. Until the judge told him it was now or he would be held in contempt (after 5 years).

At the end of the divorce process, you have to pay justice fee. Usually it's shared between the spouses, not always equally but shared. This time though, the judge gave every fees to my dad. My mom's lawyer said he never saw that in his carreer, the judge was so pissed off she (judge was a woman) made him pay for the whole ordeal

(My dad is like 10 time more rich than my mom).

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#9

Not a lawyer, but a judge I met in law school had a pretty funny divorce story to share. The issue wasn't the divorce itself, but the custody battle. Both parents wanted the other one to get full custody of their two children (a boy and girl, around 2 and 4 yo). For some weird reason, they both thought that if they didn't get custody they wouldn't have to pay alimony to the other??

So the couple was in court, both deadset on not getting the kids so they wouldn't have to send money to their ex, and the judge was feeling stuck. Eventually the judge decided to go along with what the parents wanted and said "well, since neither of you want your kids, I'll take the boy."
He asked the stenograph if she wanted the girl (the poor woman was horrified and refused) but the court clerk who knew the judge well intervened and declared she would take in the girl.
It made the parents realize they were being stupid, and that they did not actually want to lose their children. After a half hour recess they had a full custody agreement.

The judge was pretty proud about his little ruse but poor kids.

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#10

From my experience, it comes years later when the kids realize who the real jerk parent was.

#11

I'm a lawyer and with so many cases one party feels like a victim and wants to get closure. And I try to help everyone get past that because there's no closure -- the jerk will continue being a jerk and dragging it out for revenge just costs money.

But.

The funniest thing I see is when people want to make a deal without involving the courts and the other refuses and takes it to court themselves and finds out how good the deal was.

Like a friend in law school, her ex and she got along and she only wanted him to help with diapers and other supplies and he got mad that she asked so often so he took her to court and had to pay A LOT.

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#12

I had a boss once that I suspect had a wife as cover on some of his comments around the guys...

Anyhow he was really insecure and prevented her from working and they didn't have any kids... they retire and move to Florida

Things are going fine and then she gets a breast cancer diagnosis.. he declares I can't deal with this and files for divorce..

The judge had a field day with their the assets and gave her the Lion's share and she got to keep the house and extra for her medical treatment.. he's now renting in a trailer park.

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#13

Not a lawyer but during custody battle my spouse went to the police station to make some B.S. allegation against me. The officers there thought she was drunk and they arrested her for DUI as soon as she pulled out of the parking lot. Custody battle went a lot better after that.

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#14

Not a divorce lawyer and this wasn’t a divorce. A close friend of mine was in a custody/parental support hearing (forgive me if the term isn’t right) with her ex.

She’s black and he’s white. This is relevant in that he decided to portray her as the “angry black woman” by showing up to court with a head injury he reported as having been caused by her. This was in the early aughts, and pics/videos by phone was definitely not as efficient.

I’m at work sitting at my desk and she calls me, borrowing a stranger’s mobile to ask me to find a water polo newsletter online that features a photo of his head injury from his last water polo meet. Found it, faxed it to the court and when they went back in and he went full in on his story the judge whipped up the faxed article with “so this isn’t you with a water polo injury then?”

She got full custody, support, the works. Wish I could’ve been there myself.

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#15

A friend had married a guy in the entertainment business when his daughter from a 1st marriage was 3. She did more to raise the girl than her father or mother did. When the divorce was initiated, he kept the then-16yo daughter away from my friend and told his daughter my friend no longer wanted to see her. Her lawyers said she had no custody rights and there was nothing they could do about it. They fought over everything else and he was a miserable b*****d and the court could see that. A trial was scheduled in NYC. He did not show up and his lawyers said he was unable to afford the airfare from LA. My friend’s lawyer hired a PI, who took pictures of the b*****d drinking pina coladas in Maui with his new girlfriend. When the judge learned of this, she had US Marshals arrest him in Maui and drag him back to NY, where she sentenced him to a year in jail with a hefty fine, and said she was referring his lawyers to the bar association. The lawyers had a sidebar in which judge said she’d drop the sentence and referral if they settled the case in 3 days. My friend got everything she wanted in terms of $ and property, and a 3-hour meeting alone with the stepdaughter. The ex begged her to backup his lies about her not wanting to see the girl but since changing her mind. She said if she did not come clean to his daughter, there was no settlement. So he did, and she still sees the daughter (now in her 30s) regularly and went to her wedding.

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#16

I knew a guy who dragged out the divorce after dozens of affairs, thought he had a stroke on a head CT so he claimed his alimony should be lower

Then another doctor said it might be a tapeworm cyst in his brain so he claimed he could not earn money to lower his alimony.

Then his wife committed s*****e while divorce proceedings were still pending. He then was paid $2 million over a 6 year period by an advocacy organization he was a lawyer for.

He's also married an actress and then cheated on her with a journalist

He's now the head of DHHS.

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#17

My cousin's a divorce attorney and he always says the really satisfying ones aren't the big money fights but when you help someone finally get out of a bad situation and start over on their own terms.

#18

I once saw a guy try to hide a massive offshore account by transferring it to a shady business partner right before the final hearing, only for that partner to ghost him and keep the entire seven-figure sum for himself. 

Since the court had already documented the existence of the funds, the judge ruled that he still owed his exwife her fifty percent share based on the original balance, meaning he had to sell his house and liquidate his remaining assets just to pay her out while the partner he trusted vanished with the rest. 

Seeing him realize he’d effectively paid his ex-wife to watch his own business partner rob him blind was the most glorious example of someone playing stupid games and winning the ultimate stupid prize.

#19

I didn't know if this is karma necessarily but it was something. Woman doesn't have much education, blue collar, but very kind and quite pretty. She meets this guy who is a born salesperson. They marry and she quits her job to stay home, raise their kids.

He makes a ton of money climbing the corporate ladder, and she's there the whole time, full time parent, moving their family to multiple different states for his jobs and promotions, hosting clients, whatever he needs to succeed. Finally he's made VP, he's flying high, but she's older and the years of being a SAHP have definitely removed some of the glamour for her. Their kids are in high school and starting to chafe under Dad's emotional and sometimes physical a***e, and final straw is when their son started to fight back. He tells her that's it, he's done, she has 3 months to get herself and the kids into an apartment because he's leaving her for the new girlfriend who happens to be a 22ish year old s******r with a fun c*****e habit.

We negotiate to keep her in the house pending the end of the school year but reality is hitting and even with alimony and child support the kids and her lifestyle is about to take a huge adjustment and it's not like she has a career or a degree to fall back on.

Parties are going to sign the stipulated judgement and file it Monday. That Saturday he and his girlfriend are in a single vehicle MVA, toxicology report shows he has a whole pharmacy in his system and girlfriend ends up serving some time for the c*****e the police find on her.

He d**s intestate, which means she, as his wife and the mother of his children, gets everything, no question. Plus he hadn't bothered to change the beneficiaries on any of his accounts, so she gets all those non-probatable assets and insurance policies, which as VP he had lots, and because he died before the kids were 18 there were immediate social security payments for them.

I can't say I'm happy the kids lost their father but it was pretty much best case scenario for all of them: mom owns the house, kids have college paid, no lifestyle changes for the family, and no more a*****e a*****e and his d***s and nonsense.

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#20

I am not a lawyer, but I have a custody story that makes me happy. My friend married a woman who I was not a fan of because the first time we met she said to me, you remind me of someone I hate. Sooo... never a fan. They have a beautiful girl and then get divorced while she was young. Over time my friend married someone a lot better and made career choices that made him a good deal of money. Over time his daughter stayed with him more and more, so he wanted custody. He told his ex that he would take her, not ask for assistance and in fact throw some cash her way so when she does spend time there it goes well. She says no, and takes him to court. She was never any where as well off as he was mind you. At the end of the case, because of the daughters testimony about the mothers behaviour and how awesome of a dad he is, the judge decided to make her pay him 2k every month, full custody without any requirements for visitation. She basically lost every where possible and it was fantastic. He saved the money she gave him for her and used it to pay for college.

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#21

I'm going back 25 years, but there was an epic forum post. I've mentioned it before and reddit wants to say "that's not how divorce works" while forgetting there are 50 states with different laws.

I think it was some BMW forum. Dude thought his wife was not acting normal, but overlooked it. I think the first red flag was like her car out of gas, yet he filled it last week and she worked close to home. Where was she going? He stopped by her work one day, and she wasn't there. He hired a private investigator, and caught her cheating. He paid the guy some more, and he built up a serious case of her not going to work, this other address she was always at, out to lunch with him, kissing him in the parking lot, etc. This went on for like 2 months while he was speaking with a divorce lawyer. He had started to question why she was acting weird, and out of the blue she demands a divorce. Something like "if you don't trust me, I want a divorce!" He moves out, it goes to court, she asks for half of everything, and his lawyer slapped down a 3 inch binder with all the proof of her cheating, not working, going to this guy's house, pictures of them holding hands and kissing, etc. Insert jaw drop on her part. He countered something like "take over the mortgage and you can keep the house, not a penny of anything else." No retirement fund access, no half their savings, etc. She was cooked as the kids say today, and her lawyer quickly told her to take it or it could be worse later.

#22

My ex and her family heard through the grapevine that I had come into a large inheritance, we are talking millions plus rights to patents that would provide ongoing income.

The reality is that I had been the executor of an Estate of an elderly friend that actually had been a multimillionaire but gave his fortune away to charity. So, I get dragged into Family Court by my ex and her parents so that my ex can get her piece of the pie.

No, it was not 'for the children' as my ex in-laws are quite wealthy in their own right and my ex and the kids were living together with the grandparents. These also paying for all daily expenses, as well as the legal bills for my ex (this was demonstrated during the divorce trial).

The judge hears testimony and accepts evidence over two court dates. I provide extensive records and evidence. Also, I just happened to have lost my job in finance in the 2008 US economic downturn, that was in evidence as well. The judge said that his ruling would be received by the parties involved and their attorneys.

Two weeks later I got the judgement, no additional funds would be awarded to my ex for child support.

Additionally as I was now unemployed for over 6 months and it did not seem that a job that I was qualified for in the near future that my child support would be reduced to the minimum as required by law $25.00 monthly.

I would have given my right arm to be a fly on the wall when my ex and her parents read the decision of the court.

#23

During my child custody hearing, when the judge declared a very modest amount for child support, my ex jumped up and protested, saying, how am I going to be able to afford to take my (new) wife out to dinner? The judge gave him Evil D***h Stare and said, oh you remarried? We need to account for that. And added 20% to the total amount.

#24

I work for a law firm (we typically do criminal law but did a divorce case as a favor for the boss's friend).

Our client wanted to divorce her husband because she said that he was cheating.

He insisted that he wasn't. She told us that he was. His law firm told us that he wasn't.

We showed them proof that he bought lap dances at a strip club. They argued that he wasn't and that he wasn't at a strip club.

He then (as this was happening) got a ticket for leaving a parking lot without indicating.

That parking lot belonged to and was only used by clients of the strip club.

And the fine (since the car was in his wife's name) came to his wife.

Things were a bit easier after that.

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#25

She agreed to a payout of alimony after playing games with it for years (bringing spouse in for contempt when he was a week behind, while acting so crazy and calling his employer every day to the point where they let him go because it was too much.) It was far less than originally offered to her as a payout but she wanted a lump sum at this point because she was broke. She thought she had “won” by getting a big check and had bragged to people that she was getting a big divorce settlement. The check was purposefully made out to her attorney and she had racked up such a huge bill with her games that she got none of it. The look on her face when she realized the check was made out to the attorney and she wouldn’t see a dime was priceless. She had also demanded the house and so she got it, along with the mortgage, which ended up being foreclosed upon and constables had to get her out when she refused to leave. At the beginning of the divorce she had destroyed all of his belongings, sold his cars, and wouldn’t let him in on the date the court ordered her to allow him in to get his stuff. She stalked and harassed him relentlessly until he got a restraining order, which she continually violated and actually ended up in jail for a couple of months. She was nuts and an absolute nightmare. What goes around comes around.

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#26

This happened to a friend of mine. When he was 13 his mother wanted to divorce his dad. His dad ran a company and had already been positioning a semi-retirement.

Dad has a serious conversation with the mom and decides he will walk away from their house, sign it over to her, savings account that are theirs, now hers. Retirement plan that he had along with investments, things they would have cashed out in their older years, all to her. She agreed and their lawyer met with them, signed everything and came back and announced it to their kids (my friend and his sis). Officially divorced. Everything in writing solid and legal.

Dad took his cars (2), personal items and his company. Got an apartment near it to start. My friend and his sis lived with mom most of the time, saw dad weekly and he always paid for everything.

By the time my friend was 23 his mom was hurting financially with a reverse mortgage being her means to live and dad had rebuilt it all for himself.


**The mom then tried to file for divorce to get half his assets claiming the previous divorce was not real.** It was a crazy time for my friend as he and his sister realized their mom had this terrible side. His grandparents (mom's parents) his sister and himself had to have a few interventions with her to stop her bs as she was willing to go all the way with it. I believe in the discovery/ similar thing the case got tossed because there was paper work and everything done legally. Changed how they viewed both parents and my friend and his sister are much closer to the dad.

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#27

Not a divorce but a custody case. Young couple and exgf was very controlling throughout relationship. As in texting all day and night even when he was at work. Finally he had it and left. The moment he left she kept him from the kid completely. Two years of his kids life he missed, and the kid was two so he basically forgot his own dad.

Dad tried regularly to see the kid by calling or texting but tried not to cross a line and get the cops called so he never showed up to the house. Finally figured out if he filed for child support he could get a custody agreement. She goes nuclear. Protective order. Goes to a DV organization and paints him as the worst person alive. We go to mediafion. She only wants him to have supervised visitation...until the kid is 18 and she wants double child sulport. Moronic. We even offer reduced custody and some supervision initially to appease her. Extra child support (not double but a bit more). No dice. All or nothing with this woman.

After four full trial afternoons (we were scheduled for 4 hour blocks at a time and had to come back week after week), endless testimony and going through their asinine text messages....my client gets expanded visitation, minimum child support (he earned very little)...and the protective order was even dissolved. Judge chews her out.

Really hate family law.

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#28

Worked as a clerk at an office. We had one go on for a couple extra weeks over a signed Rodney Dangerfield photo. Bossman had also married a former client but never got the balls up to ask for that story.

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#29

Cousin got divorced. She wasn't a good person. She married a guy. Guy was older and got sick. She pulls him of life support due to cost. She was days short of the required amount of time being married so she didn't get his pension.

Customer of mine has updated me on his divorce. Some of the highlights. Been 4 years.
Still no progress. He just keeps fighting. Dragging it out. Judge evicted him from his own house. Probably for not selling or buying out spouse. Judge gave him community service hours. Never heard of a divorce court doing this. My guess is he didn't listen to Judge and got contempt charge. The latest is he fired attorney.

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#30

Not a lawyer.

My wife's daughter was in a car accident at 14. The lawyer who handled the insurance medical claims met my wife's ex a couple of times at the hospital and told my wife that when they eventually get divorced to call her and she'd handle it pro-bono.

That happened, the lawyer handled it for free, and the ex failed to show up at the end and my wife got everything they asked for as the judge ruled against him.

I met them shortly after and we've been married 30 years now 😄.

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#31

This was from the divorce of a friend of mine. Her husband was so verbally a*****e, and he fought her over everything and tried to make sure she got nothing. He made the divorce take so long.

Anyway, he was trying to make her out to be an unfit mother, so he was calling her insane and demanded a court appointed psychiatrist to assess her. Problem he didn’t plan for was that the psychiatrist had to assess both of them. After meeting with both of them and their children the psychiatrist had a glowing assessment of my friend and a scathing assessment of the husband. They called out his a*****e behavior and manipulative actions. This all got reported to the court.

In the end she has majority custody because he has to work more, so he pays her child support and alimony.

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#32

NAL and we weren't even married, but the karma on this one was real.

Our child wasn't even two years old when I ended the relationship with my ex. Not only did he have a huge drinking problem (which I discovered while on maternity leave), but according to his best friend, he'd admitted that he "wasn't ready for the responsibility of being a parent" - at 30 years old. After the baby was born he stayed out of the house as much as possible, was always pawning the baby off on his parents when he was off and I was working, always had money for beer but none for the baby's expenses. It got to the point where my savings were about depleted, and I had to take money from family as well as a loan from my 401(k) to cover everything. Not to mention, he'd leave the baby in a diaper so long there'd be terrible rashes, and wouldn't feed or dress him properly.

So one night I'd had enough, after he came home from work four hours late and drunk, and ended it. Long story short, things happened, he called the cops, and he ended up getting arrested (he's a cop himself lol).

I'm guessing he realized that there was the possibility of child support, because ALL OF A SUDDEN, he was interested in our child and wanted full custody. And he tried every trick in the book. Filed for temporary emergency custody and lied to the judge to get it. Insisted that I was unstable and required a psych eval before I was able to see our child unsupervised and once I was cleared he dictated when I could have the baby. I suspect the lawyers I'd gotten knew him, because they definitely weren't fighting for me, and even gave me the wrong time for court one day when I'd called the office to double check. Switched lawyers but he still pulled c**p. He'd taken my address book and called all of my friends, family and coworkers telling them that I committed various types of fraud and was stealing their identities. Friends were followed and threatened. I lost a number of friends, and some even turned against me, passing him information. I'd moved in with friends until I got my own place, and they were the ones who told me he had a PI on me - I'd gone to spend the weekend with another friend and the PI called the ones I was staying with, asking where I was. SO MUCH MORE I won't get into. He did everything he could to try to prove that I was unfit, and to break me, and made my life an absolute hell. He and his lawyer dragged things out to where this ended up taking two and a half years; his goal was to make me run out of money.

The karma: I was awarded custody; he was given the basic visitation. He was ordered to pay $14K of my legal fees, for which he was to set up a payment plan with my attorney - until I saw a "For Sale" sign in his window literally a week later. A lien was placed on his condo and the full amount came out of the sale, as well the 2 years' of retroactive child support that I'd been awarded. In our state, support continues until the child finishes college, so that was an additional 19 years :)

The best part: at least a couple times a year I run into a friend of his, and they are very happy to share information with me. Early on he'd gotten into a relationship (with a former friend of mine, no less, who tried to help him take my baby), and they *really* pushed the relationship during the court case to show that he was "more stable." I've been told that she is an absolute b, he hates her, is absolutely MIS-ER-ABLE, and wants to divorce her but can't because then he'd have to give her half, and he will not do that. Meanwhile, I have a great life and am as happy as a clam :).

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#33

Not a lawyer, but I chose to not pursue a divorce on based on adultery because the burden of evidence (I knew I could get it, but didn’t want to waste my time/money getting it legitimately). Anyway, during the divorce process in court my lawyer slipped in that we had initially filed based off adultery when the judge was looking for the filing. My (now ex) brother in law was there as my ex’s witness and very obviously had no clue 💅 now the whole family knows.

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#34

We didn't make it to court but the result was just as good. My ex absolutely hated me for filing for divorce. From that moment on, everything was a fight. The golf clubs from my d**d dad, she wanted compensation. My inheritance from my d**d grandma, she wanted a share of the payments. Custody of our child "you work all the time so I read I can just take full custody"

Well, she started asking for insane, like, constitutional rights violation stuff and her lawyer was getting sick of it. He must have gotten real tired of her nonsense because finally he just responds to my lawyer "I've told her she can't do this and she doesn't care, she's not budging."

Needless to say, we sent a thank you for the information, we'll see you in court, and got the request to settle out of court within a week. Don't p**s off your own lawyer folks.

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#35

Friend of mines wife left him after she got caught having an affair with her wealthy client. She stood in front on the judge and only asked for her retirement account, agreed to weekend custody for their teenaged kids. She also took their credit card debt. Gave him the doublewide and the acre it sat on. She was ordered to pay a small amount of child support. He got off well all things considered. He was a game warden in Texas. Small town, everyone knows everyone.

She married the wealthy guy the weekend after divorce was final. Kids did not attend. My friend was heartbroken still, and his brothers and his dad took him to the horse track/casino and all gave him like 20 bucks each to bet on the races cause he was broke. He won like 1200 and gave them all their money back. As they were leaving, walking past the slots his dad said he should make few spins on that 5$ line machine cause "you got to play big to win big" so he laughed and on the 3rd spin, won 8 million.

She took him back to court wanting custody, same judge. Before the lawyers could even open their briefcases he looked at her and said "3 months ago you wanted nothing to do with the kids, and they wanted nothing to do with you. Only change I see now is your ex husband has 6 zeros on his bank statement instead of 3, i am not going to force 2 teenagers to live with you madam. You have child support due at the end of the month, every month till they are 21. Do not force the state to collect it, you might chip one of them fancy nails on the bunk down at the sheriff's office"

She tried again later when he moved to a new jurisdiction and the new judge looked at her payments and earnings and raised her to the max allowed. She never tried again, and the kids haven't spoken to her in 15 years, last I know of was at her father's funeral.

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#36

He sued his lawyer halfway through the divorce litigation to not pay her legal fees and lost horribly. Turns out he fired her after she refused to use “salted earth” tactics in the divorce litigation and those details came out in the reasons for judgement.

The reasons for judgement was then used in the divorce litigation. He stopped cooperating with the court and it ended with bailiffs grabbing and selling his known assets, including millions of dollars worth of real estate, to satisfy the court ordered judgement and costs.

#37

Friend’s mum was offered $18m by his dad to divorce. She refused the offer saying it wasn’t enough and she wanted what she believed was half the marital assets. I have no idea of this guys net worth but it was/is extreme. The problem was everything they had access to except their main family house was owned by a trust and she refused to believe that she wasn’t entitled to anything in the trust or half of its assets, which I assume was a lot more than $18m. It went to court.

She got half the house and a few items from it, which was about $2.5m. 

He used to go and see her in her flat and she was f*****g bitter as hell about it. I went there once and she sat the whole time smoking pot whinging to my friend about what an a*****e his dad is. He may have been an a*****e but she was a greedy, resentful c**t. He was no angel either but he had offered her $18m to leave. 

She made her own bed and didn’t like sleeping in it.

#38

Cliche' "not a lawyer," but I used to produce radio commercials for a couple few attorneys. This one husband and wife law team switched from divorce to handling injury accident cases. When I asked why they changed, they said it was because handling divorce cases was making them lose their faith in humanity.

#39

Sov Cit finally getting jailed for contempt after three years and 12 billion warnings/chances by an overly patient judge.

#40

Not a lawyer but I married one. We bought a house together. She put up most of the down payment and insisted the title was 60% hers and 40% mine. When we divorced, the house was underwater by about $50,000. The judge said she should pay $30,000 and I had to pay only $20,000.

#41

My brother ex-wife was fighting for high alimony for herself (this is EU) because she "couldnt work" due to medical reasons especially sick spine.

She showed up in the court in heels xD

Judge saw that, dropped some sarcastic comment and dismissed the application 10 minutes later.

#42

Met a very rich high powered lawyer in NYC because my friend knew someone who supplied his hobby garage (he rented a whole commercial space just for his hobby of building cars from scratch)

Apparently he had a nasty divorce from his ex wife. She personally and literally drags his name through the tabloids and gets articles in the ny post about how he bought his new playboy fiancée an engagement ring worth over $100k, but allegedly won’t pay for his daughter’s medical expenses.

He files in court that these tabloid articles damaged his career and earning potential, so the judge slashes the ex-wife’s divorce settlement based on the damages he allegedly incurred.

#43

I don’t know all the details, but a childhood neighbour wanted to divorce her husband due to a***e. 

Took years of him dragging it out and four different lawyers fired him. After he tried running up her bills by continuously emailing her lawyer, she ended up with one the firm partners taking over the case. She had a much fairer deal through court just because he pissed her much more experienced lawyer off so much he took a pay cut.

#44

I had a boss who used to cheat on his wife and she finally got tired of it. He tried to nickel and dime her during the divorce using the kid as a pawn. A couple of weeks after it went through, she said she felt lucky and bought a lottery ticket.

You know the rest....

#45

I am not sure if he deserved this but let me tell you a story. Last August my area flooded. We got a couple inches in our basement but we are renters so it wasn't that bad. Was going over my prenuptial with my lawyer, it was pretty simple because all we have is debt but I wanted to get the most out of my money so I mentioned our basement. She told me the week before her client had won the house in the divorce...and then the basement flooded. His plan was to sell it and pay his legal bills so it was a mess.

#46

My ex's lawyer quit during a hearing.

#47

Judge ordered hair follicle d**g testing of the opposing party after a temporary custody hearing within 72 hours. Somehow the man was diagnosed with cancer and started chemo within those 72 hours, which caused every single testable hair on his entire body to fall out. As to be expected, the judge didn't love it and he didn't even get joint legal custody.

Two years later... Different case, new couple. The opposing party wife had an affair with the aforementioned hairless deadbeat dad (our PI really did some great cinematography when capturing all the s*x in parking lots they were having on their lunch breaks). He was still hairless two years later because he legitimately had been diagnosed with cancer...and he died months later. I wouldn't call it satisfying because he had young children, but it is some real karma.

#48

My ex was sure that moms always get the schools and held out for school control, refused to compromise on a school in the middle between us. That's why we couldn't mediate. She took us to court on it assuming she'd win.

The judge understood perfectly and I control the schools now.

#49

One of my friends is a lawyer and he told me about a particular case where the woman was having an affair after only 1 year of marriage (total 4 year relationship) and they had 1 kid together. The husband was heartbroken and depressed because apparently the woman threaten to not let him see his kid anymore and wanted full custody and make him pay ton of money. Little did she know that after the husband found out she was cheating he started recording (secretly) all their interactions which included one particular video of her discussing how to financially ruin him with her lover in their own house when he wasn't home. One of the tactics was accusing him for a***e.

This man was cunning af tho, they went to divorce court and he let her spread all the lies and make false accusations.

Then he and my friend dropped the evidence b**b and my friend told me he rarely seen a Judge so furious that she was barely controlling her rage. Needless to say the cheating wife got smoked and ended up losing custody and had to pay the husband alimony, he got the house too. I'm not sure but I believe the wife even got into trouble with the justice department for false accusations but I don't know what happened with that though.

#50

Back when I was in law school, one of my profs had this client who was divorcing a piece of s**t. What her ex didn’t know is that she knew he committed financial fraud. And that she knew about his partner in fraud/bussiness partner who was helping him.

The ex basically hid his money in anticipation of divorce and other shady dealings and courts don’t like that. So they gave her all money he hid. He didn’t go to jail though, but it was a real possibility

And according to my prof she married a very handsome man afterwards.

Edit: I feel like I should mention that she would have gotten a lot less money had her ex been honest.

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#51

One of my best friends has 2 disabled children. They will always need assistance but can live a good life, they are loving, bright, kind, and fun. They are happy and she is the one making it so they can have this quality of life.

Her husband cheated, filed for divorce, and through his lawyer fought to pay no alimony, no child support, and minimal assistance with medical stuff. One of his arguments was that he never agreed to having a baby, and he told her to get an abortion when they did the tests for down's syndrome with their first. Also he said the second might not be his because she hardly had s*x with him due to the amount of time she had to spend with their first born. She never cheated. She didnt have time.

Judge tore him a new one. Awarded way more child support than she had expected, plus alimony, plus changed his health insurance to include the kids, plus his car because she didnt have one and was ubering to everything, plus the house as they were living in an apartment while he and his Mistress kept the house. Mistress left him. Job hated him and managed him out. Family drifted away. He once told me, drunk, that she had ruined his life. Despite everything he couldn't see that he ruined it all on his own.

Edit: reading comprehension fam. The ex wife is my best friend. He is not. At all.

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#52

Not a divorce lawyer, but my father spent 16 years dragging out his divorce process with my mother. When she finally won she won 50% of assets 12 years prior, with interest, and not taking into account his future losses. The judgment is so huge that he has been completely wiped out for the rest of his life. Can't even afford rent. We made sure he is housed now and he gets decent social security (Which she does not garnish) but still.

#53

My dad was a real POS, not just to my mom and my siblings and I, but his attorneys through the divorce as well. Yes, plural. The first one dropped him. The second one…ok so day of court, she leaves the court room and she’s gone so long that the judge sends the bailiff to see where she went and bring her back. My mom tells us when she gets home how bad the court room smelled. Didn’t think much of it though.

Anyway, few weeks later mom and dad have to meet to exchange keys or some final docs, dad tells my mom his attorney was so nervous about if he’d behave in court that she s**t her pants. That’s why she was gone for so long, trying to clean herself up, and that’s why it smelled in court. My dad thought the whole thing was funny. Real winner that one.

She’s been free of him almost 15 years now and with a great guy.

#54

I’m not a lawyer and this isn’t court karma but real life karma.

When we divorced (over 30 years ago) my ex sold the house, tried to keep the kids, and lied about his income to pay the bare minimum in child support.

I was a stay at home mom with little to no work experience. He told a mediator that I should just hand our children over to him and go live in a basement suite somewhere.

My legal aid lawyer got me the federally mandated child support and not much more.

I got a job, took some classes, got a better job, created a beautiful home for me and my kids, took them on vacations and built a really good life.

Then I met a wonderful man, started a business and built an even better life.

Today I live in a 2 million dollar home with my soul mate, travel and have a great relationship with my kids. I am living my best life.

Guess where he is? Yep, living in a rented basement suite, no partner, no vacations and will have to continue to work well into his 70s.

The kids spend time with him but they aren’t really close.

Karma baby.

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